Face your fears

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     People who lack confidence avoid or run away from their fears; they try not to depart their comfort zones. Self-confident people learn to swim by jumping in the water, or deal with a fear of heights by skydiving. Get out of your comfort zone, and when you achieve success doing so, use it as evidence in your confidence-building process.[19]

    • Identify your goals, and establish a way to address them head-on. If you are afraid to speak up at meetings, draw up a list of potential questions or comments beforehand, and make yourself use at least one of them.

Community Q&A

  • What if I am looked down upon when it comes to capabilities?
    wikiHow Contributor
    You shouldn’t tell lies about what you can do. Try to work on improving whatever your weak points are. For school work, study more; for art, be more detailed; for music, be more dedicated and bold. If you’re physically weak, you should work out more. Don’t try to be something you’re not; work hard and have faith in yourself.
  • How can I get authority over people who dislike me?
    wikiHow Contributor
    You can get authority over people who dislike you in two ways: 1. Working to befriend those people so that they will like you and do as you say. 2. Forcing the authority over them in whatever way is available for you (threats, consequences, punishment, etc.).